How to Raise a Boy

Based on my personal experience over years I wish I knew few things which I felt would have greatly improved my life. Hopefully young parents can learn out of my mistakes and raise their boy accordingly. The following suggestions are being made as a general approach to raising a boy to help him have a happy and successful life.

• The majority of the child psychological development occurs before the age of 7, so a boy can be raised freely. This gives him independent thinking, he learns his mental and physical capabilities, how to negotiate with people, etc. Do not try to spoon feed him by helping him in every aspects because it is important for him to learn, on his own, how to learn. This helps him when it is necessary to take risks as he grows up. For example take a Japanese schools or Swedish schools for examples.

• Around age 12, make sure that he starts helping the father in doing some of the needed chores around the home like gardening, plumbing, motorcycle/car fixing, physical activities, any house work that needs a helping hand. When he grows up these things help him to fix simple things.

• It is important for a boy to have hobbies apart from his profession. This will greatly help him relax, grow and enrich his life. Some of his hobbies can lead to successful career or relieve of depression when needed.

• Sports are really important for a boy to learn. Physical activity greatly imrpoves his health, make him competitive and biggest option to get rid of stress . Lots of cultures do not put effort into physical activities, which leads to an underdeveloped physique that is not attractive to women when the time comes for picking a partner.

Some of the must have physical activities include swimming, Hiking and running.

Combative sports, its very important for. a boy to learn one combative sport. This will enable him to be courageous when needed. Being brave doesnt come by genetic but rather needs to be built. This is also one source of improving testoterone levels.

• Do follow my Generalized Diet Habits blog post on what sort of diet is most nourishing.

• Make him think independently rather than being a parrot of what his friends and teachers may be saying. Individual thinking leads to critical thinking thus avoiding emotional overreactions to propaganda. This will establish him as person of substance, and help him lead an individual life.

• Allow and provide venues for risk taking, as this will challenge him and improve his personality. Otherwise a boy may always be shy and unable to explore his full potential, inhibiting his future achievements in life. Lot of parents in asian cultures force kids to safer career paths. Even though they are important, it is equally important for the boy to learn to weigh risks and make decisions, long after the parents have gone. For example, during summer vacation make him hike all the mountains by himself. Go on a prilimigrage or back packing with less money.

• Make him pursue his dreams/goals rather than women. Even after marriage a man should always pursue his goals because a woman partnered with him for this goals than himself. Pursuing a woman diverts his focus and at the end neither women stays with him or his goals.

• As parents it's important to teach boy not to masturbate or watch porn. His semen is a vital force for his to stay focused, disciplined and giving essential energy to carry out his work and be fearless. It also lead men into virtuous path instead of continuously catering to women. It is one of this reason lot of great things in this world is achieved by celibate men like Nichola Tesla, Jesus Christ, Swami Vivekananda, Wright brothers, Da Vinci etc. These men created history and pushed human race forward. Even sports men are not allowed to have sex because it takes away focus of the man and make him less vigorous.

• Do not allow him to indulge in ideas like equality, feminism, multiculturism etc. without proper context, as this will subvert his mind and make him weak. Women perceive such men as weak and undesirable beta males, despite the various talking points of the various branches of the feminist moment.

• Do not let him marry too soon. Lots of eastern cultures make this mistake, to marry very soon when he is not financially secure. A man at age 30 onwards is at a good age for marriage because by then, he has accomplished something or is in the process of building something. This is highly attractive for a woman, so better delay a marriage a bit.

• Meditation, last but the most important thing of all is the process of meditation. I highly encourage young parents to make their kids start meditating as young as 12 years. This is the most difficult activity of all the above and hence ranks the highest. It has tremendous neurological well being of the boy.